“You shall love the Lord your God, with all your heart…and your neighbor as yourself.”
The Gates and Mitchell families live next door to each other in suburban Pittsburgh. They met 14 years ago and quickly bonded. Each couple has three children, roughly the same ages, who walk to school together and swim in the Mitchell’s backyard pool. The families share a love for hockey; the boys play on the same team and the dads serve on the high school hockey board. Their lives are intertwined; they consider each other family.
But during the 2020 Presidential election, the Mitchells, lifelong Democrats, planted a Joe Biden sign in front of their home. The Gates next door, lifelong Republicans, put up a Donald Trump sign in their front yard.
It was a second sign that each family put up in their respective yards that made an impact, according to The Wall Street Journal 10/21/2020. Both yards included a handmade sign reading “We (Heart) Them” with an arrow pointing to the other house. In the middle of each heart were the words “One Nation”.
“There’s so much hate,” says Chris Mitchell who came up with the idea. “We want to send a message that people on opposite ends of the political spectrum can actually like each other and be civil.”
Although they generally don’t talk politics, Stewart and Chris Mitchell and Bart and Jill Gates know where each household stands. They don’t argue. They don’t label each other. They listen to each other’s perspective, look for common ground and recognize that reasonable and good people can reach different conclusions.
“We don’t see them as Democrats. They’re the Mitchells,” says Bart Gates. “We know they are good people who live next door.”
To love as God loves requires us first to see each other as God sees us: to look beyond labels and brands to recognize the goodness every human being possesses simply be being created in the loving image of God. The only way we can meaningfully love God is to realize that we are connected to one another by such love. In these deeply divisive times, the words of Jesus in today’s gospel are especially challenging: to love with our whole heart and soul and mind requires us to put aside our anger and mistrust of those who see issues from a different perspective and to engage one another in love and compassion as God is engaged with us.
CONSIDER THIS:
It might be hard-wired into our human nature, that we search for guidance for moral actions in our lives. Some of those directives, like the Ten Commandments, outline our obligations toward God and neighbor, and as we get older and more reflective, those general rules give birth to a thousand detailed behaviors. Each culture picks apart those guidelines and develops practices that direct ways to pray, how to teach children about God, our responses to violence, theft and the troublesome yearnings of the heart. We find ourselves at times consulting a book of “right” actions to determine if we’re following the law. But we can get caught if all we’re worried about is “doing the law” and not taking time to dig down for the reasoning that leads to it. Here’s an example of that….
One day a certain man hurriedly headed out the door for work. In his path in the front hall was his three-year-old playing with blocks. The man patted the boy on the head, stepped over him, opened the door and went outside. Halfway toward the car, a guilt bomb exploded in his head.
“What am I doing?” he thought to himself. “I’m ignoring my son. I never play with him. He’ll be old before I know it.” In the background of his thoughts he hears the melody of Cat’s in the Cradle, a ballad from the 70s about lost fatherhood. He returns to the house, sits down with his son, and began to build blocks.
After two minutes the boy asked, “Daddy, why are you mad at me?”
It’s not what we do that counts, but where we do it from. Our actions come from different places inside us. Playing blocks out of guilt is not the same as playing blocks out of love, and the difference is quickly spotted, even by three-year-olds – especially by three-year-olds.
Heart, soul, mind and strength. Be blest this week. Fr. G.