Have you ever met a flatterer, or people pleaser? One who says what you want to hear but has no intention of following through? Or one who over-promises and under-delivers? It can be challenging to hear the words of Jesus in the parable today about such behaviors.  Despite our best intentions, it is our actions that truly mean more than our words.  There are many reason why we might over-promise, but we are reminded of another saying in the gospels, “Let your ‘Yes’ mean ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ mean ‘No’ ” (Matt 5:37).  This is simply good advice from Jesus the teacher.

 

When we see acts of generosity, it can be natural to expect that we might receive some of that generosity as well.  It might sound strange to hear it said that someone is generous with one group and not another.  And such is the seeming riddle of today’s parable.  God is a just and generous giver.  When we receive what we have from God, there is no room for complaint, jealousy, or envy.  Let us die to our own sense of who is just and worthy in God’s sight and leave room to be surprised by his generosity.

 

Grudges are awful things.  But today’s gospel calls us to a higher standard.  The forgiveness we’ve experienced should motivate us to be free with forgiveness when others wrong us.  We cannot dole out forgiveness in infinitesimal pieces only to those we deem worthy.  Instead, forgiveness ought to be given freely.  We must die to the grudges, slights, rudeness, and other transgressions we’ve suffered and rise to a sense of freedom that comes through forgiving as we’ve been forgiven.  Jesus himself warns us that if we withhold forgiveness, it will be withheld from us.  And the consequences of that are severe indeed.

 

                                                                            

 

 

 

Wouldn’t life be so much better if we could all live in peace and happiness?  But relationships are not like that.  Even the most secure and safe nuclear families – individuals raised in the same household, for whom love may be given – have challenges with one another.  The church is the same.  In the face of this, Matthew gives us some practical steps to follow.  Only when we experience the new life of the resurrection will every tear be wiped away, and relationships restored.  Until that time, we doe the best we can, motivated by love and guided by the wisdom of Christ.

 

Today’s reading presents another interesting conversation between Jesus and Peter.  Not only is Peter unwilling to go to Jerusalem where suffering awaits, he doesn’t want Jesus to go either.  Jesus has already said that he will endure suffering and death, and now he is prepared to undergo his fate.  This encounter with Peter allows him to teach us what it takes to follow him and what it means for our salvation.  Taking up our cross may not lead to the kind of death and suffering that Jesus endured, but it does mean that whatever our cross might be, it will be the way to gain eternal life with Jesus.